breaking free of negative emotions

From Self-Sabotage to a complete Self-Concept Makeover.



What you will learn:

✅ A definition of self-sabotage and 5 different ways self-sabotaging behaviors can impact your life.

✅ 11 Examples of behaviors to help you identify if you are self-sabotaging.

✅ 17 different empowering strategies you can implement to banish self-sabotaging behaviors.

✅ Why you may be holding on to pain and anger, and how to identify your emotions.

✅ 10 Signs of harboring negative emotions.

✅ Effects of a broken relationship plus 10 different ways to move on.

✅ 6 Natural strategies you can use to help you control depression and other negative emotions.

✅ The 2 types of self-criticisms and how to reframe the most common self-critical thoughts that hold you back.

✅ How to reevaluate the past including 4 signs that you are not using your past constructively.

✅ How to enhance different areas of your life.

✅ 13 ways to build your self-esteem and take your life to the next level.



Not Just a book.

Use the Workbook included at the end of the book to implement the concepts and strategies you are going to learn.

A workbook is a great way to consolidate your learning through Self-reflection activity.

Plus you can use the worksheets and checklists directly from your device.

By using these strategies, you can live the more satisfied and successful life you so richly deserve!

the book


Table of contents

Introduction…..4

Self-Sabotage defined…..4

How Self-Sabotage impacts your life……6

Do you Self-Sabotage?……8

Changing your life strategy: Banishing Self-Sabotage……12

Introduction…..19

Identifying negative emotions…..19

Why we hold on to pain and anger…..20

The negative contracts we make……21

Signs of harboring negative emotions……22

Expecting too much……23

Dealing with heartache from a broken relationship…..24

Ways to overcome a Heartbreak and move on…..25

Natural strategies to help control negative emotions…..28

  • Emotional Freedom Technique…..28
  • Exercise……29
  • Pranayama (Deep Breathing)……30
  • Basic Pranayama…..31
  • Tai chi.….33
  • Reiki for Emotional Healing…..34

The importance of Gratitude…..35

Journaling……36

Introduction……38

Understanding Self-Criticism……39

“I’m not enough”……41

“I’ll Never Improve”……43         

“Everyone Is Better Than Me”……45

Reframe Other Self-Critical Thoughts……47

More Tips for Dealing with Self-Criticism……50

Introduction……53          

Reevaluating the Past……54          

Enhance Your Life……61          

Health and Well-Being……61          

Social Life……62      

Finances…..64      

Have Goals……65           

Give of Yourself Regularly……66          

Who Do You Wish To Be? ……67       

CONCLUSION……68

WORKBOOK……70

who are we?

We are Patrizia and Camilla Jones founders of the Emotional Shift – a women’s group, and IPHM accredited training providers. Our mission is to help you stop self-sabotage, unleash your potential and create the life you truly desire.
All of our work is based on our experience and passion for personal development. Patrizia is also a Registered Nurse and a certified Life Coach specializing in Rational Emotive Behavior Techniques, with a Master Degree in Public Health and a PhD in Metaphysical Counselling. We have worked for the NHS for over 15 years supporting people throughout their healing journey, both physically and emotionally. We hope to do so for many more years to come. We are nature lovers and always say yes to a nice cup of tea.