There are many definitions of life coaching but one that resonates with me is that life coaching helps people tap into their inner purpose and passion, set achievable goals and action plans to bring about extraordinary and sustainable results.
There are two main characteristics of life coaching: One is that it directs its attention toward the individual’s strengths and their preferred future instead of their past problems and deficits. The key question is: “What is a person’s desirable life and how can it be achieved?”.
The second characteristic is, the unwavering belief in each person’s potential to live the life they desire, achieve their goals and reach their full potentials. In this sense, each person is the expert of their life, the life coach role is to help the person to move closer to the desired direction.
Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy evolved from the work of psychotherapist Albert Ellis in the mid-1950s as the original form of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy.
Ellis believed that most people are not aware that many of their thoughts about themselves are irrational and negatively affect the way they behave in important relationships and situations. According to Ellis, it is these thoughts that lead people to suffer negative emotions and engage in self-destructive behavior. At the same time, humans are capable of challenging and changing their irrational beliefs, if they are willing to do the work – practice the techniques. While specific life events may contribute to mental health issues, REBT therapists and life coaches believe that it is an individual’s own faulty and irrational belief system that causes most of the problems.
By letting go of irrational, unhealthy thoughts and replacing them with more rational, healthy beliefs, one is better able to accept one’s self and others and, in turn, live a happier life.
NLP stands for Neuro-Linguistic-Programming and it is a system that shows how to use the language of the mind to consistently achieve our specific and desired goals.
NLP originated from the work of Richard Bandler and John Grinder (University of California, Santa Cruz, 1970s) who studied the work of therapists who were famous for their incredible results: Fritz Pearls (Gestalt Therapy) Milton H.Erickson (hypnotherapist) and Virginia Satire (psychotherapist).
By observing the work of these exceptional therapists, Bandler and Grinder noticed similarities that by being reproduced can lead to the same exceptional results of eliciting positive changes in many areas of people’s life.
Bandler and Grinder essentially found what worked through modelling some of the best minds at the time and turned their behaviour into a process that could be learned. It was a stroke of genius, that has resulted quite possibly in the most powerful set of techniques in personal development ever known. NLP has its roots in the Human Potential movement and those great thinkers such as Bateson and Perls, Jung, and Korzybski.
NLP is about a state of mind that recognises freedom and choice, and a vast unlimited potential that resides in each and every being on the planet.
The Law of Attraction (LOA) has its roots in the New Thought Movement (19th century, USA). It is the belief that positive or negative thoughts when practising long enough have the potential to create enough momentum to bring life experiences that match the quality of the thoughts practiced. LOA is also known as the Law of Vibration (William W. Atkinson,1906), in fact at the very core of the LOA is the notion that everything, including ourselves, is made of energy that vibrates. As humans, we experience energy in form of thoughts, feelings, emotions and life experience in general.
Since the release of “the Secret”, the Law of Attraction has become very popular across the globe. It advocates the mind-power paradigm and combines cognitive re-framing techniques, affirmations and visualization to replace limiting or “negative” thoughts with more empowered, adaptive, “positive” thoughts.
Although, the LOA has been criticised as pseudo-science, there are many examples of research fields and theories that can offer a scientific base to the Law of Attraction such as quantum physics, string theory (physics), Psycho-neuro-immunology, neuro-science research and so on. What scientific research has shown so far is that there is indeed a connection between mind and body and that we may well live in a superposition of possible states and realities which means that we have the potential to change the course of our life.
Metaphysical Counselling is an holistic approach to counselling based on spiritual principles. It embraces the mind-body-spirit connection and therefore has an integrative approach to how we understand life and solve our challenges.
I believe that the solution to our problems is within each of us. Each one of us has the ability to influence, shape and change one’s own life experience.
Metaphysical counselling aims to balance the physical, emotional, psychological, and spiritual dimension in order to bring increased harmony and sense of wellbeing.
Metaphysical counsellors may use different approaches based on their area of specialization.
In metaphysical counselling universal spiritual practices may include the cultivation of self-awareness, mindfulness, self-compassion, self- kindness and forgiveness*.
I can show you how to apply a whole range of powerful techniques and spiritual principles to uncover the greater good in any challenging situation you may be experiencing.
Whether your challenges relate to your health, relationships, finances, career, or self-esteem or you simply wish to use the techniques to move beyond any limiting beliefs that have been holding you back, the Metaphysical approach can help.
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*Forgiveness is never about condoning poor behaviour. Forgiveness is a self-empowerment journey in which we reprocess – and often release – emotional wounds and hurtful old memories so that we can focus our energy on our goals and wellbeing.
Disclaimer: Please note that I am not a therapist. I use Rational Emotive Behavioral techniques and other techniques to help women make empowering mindset shifts and move towards the life they truly desire. We strive to share self-empowering tools and educational information but they are not a substitute for medical care. If you are seeking to resolve a psychological trauma or have a mental health issue that requires professional attention, please consult a professional therapist.